How to decide whether to do something that's optional:
Bottom Line: We all have a lot going on and lot more that we'd like to do if we didn't already have so much going on. You'll relate to this...How often does something come up that you have to make a decision about attending? Something that you're on the fence about...? Do you often find yourself feeling overwhelmed or lacking the time to do what you'd prefer to be doing yet attending events/meetings out of a sense of obligation? If you do then this antidote is for you.
A lead Duke University behavioral-economist has created a simple way for you to determine whether you should participate in things that you're on the fence about. How would you feel if the event/meeting were cancelled? If the idea of it not even being a consideration makes you happy - don't do it. If the thought of it being canceled would make you sad or unhappy, attend. That should resonate as we've all had events/meetings that we didn't really want to have to deal with but we'd obligated ourselves to...and then the relief once we've learned that it was canceled in advance. That sense of relief is refereed to as "cancel elation"and it can be your new best friend as you make decisions going forward.